It is hard to understand when you’ve never experienced the consequences of a given action. There is no one to tell you that you are taking a risk or that you are taking an action you have never experienced. As a student, it is very important to understand that you have the power to determine if you want to be there or not.
You do not have that power in academia. You are either a professor or a student. The rest of the world can certainly tell you what you should be doing, but you just don’t have the power to say so. As a result, you are not able to say no to your professor or boss.
The difference between a friend who is a professor and a student is that a professor knows what they are doing. A student doesn’t. They just don’t. A professor takes risks and does things they would never do as a student. A student takes risks and does things they would never do as a student. You can’t afford to be either. I am one of those people, and I do not take risks.
There are definitely exceptions to this, but in general the difference between a friend and a student is that a professor knows what they are doing. A student doesnt. They just dont. A professor takes risks and does things they would never do as a student. A student takes risks and does things they would never do as a student. You cant afford to be either. I am one of those people, and I do not take risks.
It all comes down to what you value most. A professor, a student, a friend. The more you value yourself, the more you will allow yourself to sacrifice for and look after those you love. A professor doesnt, a student cannot, and a friend can. So to be able to say it’s okay to sacrifice for you is to say you value yourself more than others. You are not allowed to sacrifice for anyone else.
I would never do that. I have a hard time understanding why that is.
I am no longer as clear-cut as I was a long time ago. I am not the person I used to be, and I am not the person I used to be. I like being clear in what I value most, but I also value being clear in what I do not. I care more about the people I care most about. When I am not clear in what I value in life, I tend to be much more involved with people I admire.
A professor of mine recently went on the record saying that he doesn’t need to be clear in what he values. He has a clear head and clear values. That’s all he needs. Most of us are not like that though. We need to be clear about what we do not value, because otherwise we are in a state of constant turmoil. If you are not clear about what you do not value, you are constantly questioning yourself.
When I was a kid my dad would take me to a local park and we would play a game of dodgeball. I was always the “hit the ball into the trees” guy. Thats what I thought was important. However, it got to a point where I was getting more and more frustrated with my dad because he kept insisting that I was wrong, that I was the wrong way, that I was not doing this right.
The problem is that many students feel like they are constantly being made to feel bad for a lack of self-awareness. So they have to constantly search for reasons why they are doing something wrong. When you ask a professor to take a test that you know is wrong, you will hear the same old excuses, and in the same way students feel that they have to constantly search for reasons why they are doing something wrong.